For Men

So, you think she is pregnant.  At ABBA, A Women's Resource Center, we know an unplanned pregnancy can be stressful for men as well.  It is important for you both to have a safe place to talk about your situation and gain factual information about the pregnancy.

Here is some advice to benefit you in the moment:

  • Listen
    The situation involves more than just you.  You and she are now making decisions for you, her and the baby.  You need to listen to input and give your thoughts.
  • Stay Calm
    She needs your support now more than ever.  She may be carrying the baby, but you are both parents.  Regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.  And, applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation.  Work together to find factual answers to your questions.
  • Talk
    Talk about the situation together along with parents and others close to the situation.  Hiding the news from people who genuinely care and can help will only increase the stress on both of you.
  • Be Honest
    It is normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear.  Yet, it is extremely important to let her know she is not alone.
  • Stay
    The more you run from the situation, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

Make an appointment with her at ABBA.  Our center provides free, limited medical services and options counseling to assist you in making an informed decision.