Category: Unplanned Pregnancy

Unplanned pregnancy, Single Mom, Teen Mom, Brave Mom

Read This Brave Single Teen Mom’s Story: I am 36 and a mother of three children. I was 15 when I had my first child, life was crazy. At 15  I thought I had all the answers, but the moment that I found out that I was pregnant I had no idea what life was going to look like. I had dreams of things I wanted to accomplish in life, but it wasn’t about me any more I was 15 and pregnant. I knew this pregnancy was not planned but I felt like this is my child, my blessing that would bring me to a new chapter in my life. I had my baby a week before I finished ninth grade which led me to get my GED. Then came my second child. I was married at 19 to a man that was physically abusive. At the age of 22 I was divorced with two kids. I had met someone new and became pregnant. At eight weeks I miscarried. I felt alone, guilty, and ashamed that it was my fault. That I had done something wrong, and something was wrong with me. The father was not supportive or understanding. Instead he was the opposite, verbally and mentally abusive, controlling and possessive. A few months later I found out that I was pregnant again and had my third baby. After being in another very controlling and abusive relationship that lasted several years I was given the courage to finally be free. I was now in a place where again I did not know what life looked like. The unknown was so vast. The “how’s” and “what ifs” of being a single mother were so over whelming. I had no family close and I was legally ordered not to leave the state with my middle baby. I was alone and a single mother with mountains in front of me. I had been told that I would never amount to anything, nobody would ever want me because I had three children. We moved into an apartment with almost no furnishings.  But I had some amazing coworkers and friends that helped me get the things for our apartment. I worked as a waitress but when times were slow, and I wasn’t making ends meet I started a second job cleaning. In court we decided on shared custody with no child support. So, I found myself working full time, cleaning 2-3 times a week while being a single mom. It was overwhelming, but I would not have changed a thing. I made the decision to have a career to show my kids you can do anything as long as you put your mind to it, so I applied for college. I was blessed to be able to make my own schedule at school to work around my crazy life. One year later I graduated with a ...

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Herbal Abortion?

Are you considering a herbal abortion? Maybe you are feeling scared about your potential pregnancy. You looked for a clinic and can’t find one, can’t afford one, and or don’t have the support you desire. Or maybe you are looking for a natural way to terminate a pregnancy without pumping your body full of chemicals. We live in the land of “Do It Yourself,” so why wouldn’t a home abortion be in that category? Does Herbal Abortion Work? Though it seems easy to take these herbs to stop an unwanted pregnancy there are too many risks and unknowns about these herbs. Herbal remedies are not regulated by the FDA, this means they are not studied for toxicity, side effects, dosing, and mechanisms of action on the body. It is unethical to study on pregnant women, so it will be something that will never be fully studied. Information gathered about herbal abortions are from personal stories of trial and error. Due to these herbs being unregulated some women have lost their lives and experienced severe consequences like multi-organ failure. These herbs must be taken in specific quantities and duration. These specifics differ from woman to woman resulting in many toxicities and serious defects to the fetus when carried to term. Herbal Abortion Facts The percentage of these herbal abortions working, when taken correctly and at the right time, is low. That percentage drops each week the pregnancy continues. Really consider the idea of this much damage to your body and the potential for unsuccessful with teratogenic effects to your baby. Remember that overdosing can easily occur and to never ingest essential oils because of their poisonous effects.  The risks include but are not limited to: unsuccessful abortion, poisoning/toxicity, ectopic pregnancy complications, incomplete abortion, hemorrhage, and liver and kidney damage. Signs of toxicity are but not limited to: confusion, exhaustion, shock, hypotension, tachycardia, tremors, seizures, hallucinations, collapsing, and coma. If you start taking an herbal abortion and decide to not complete the course, there are damaging effects to both you and the fetus. An herbal abortion is not safe. Immediately seek medical attention if you think you have herbal toxicity. Self-induced abortions are dangerous due to the lack of support from medical professionals. When an abortion is performed at home it can be hard to know when serious complications arise because there is no monitoring from a medical professional. This is very dangerous to you as and by the time treatment is sought out it can be too late. Many factors go into monitoring like vital signs, bleeding status, and pain level. These can only be monitored and interpreted by professional medical personnel. Herbal abortions are not safe because of serious complications and a lack of professional medical personnel around to support you. It is important to remember that inducing an abortion at home through instrumental manipulation alongside these herbs is...

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How Soon Can You Tell You’re Pregnant?

Think you may be pregnant? If yes, then likely you’re looking for every little symptom to confirm your suspicions. The important thing is, don’t panic! Adding stress to the mix can affect the way your body functions, making it seem like you’re pregnant when you actually aren’t.   One of the first steps to figuring out whether you are pregnant is to learn how pregnancy works, from implantation and conception to common pregnancy symptoms. Then, you’ll want to know how early you can take a pregnancy test and what happens next if you find out you’re pregnant. Listed below you can find some helpful information to guide you through the process of confirming a pregnancy.   How Conception and Implantation Works The process of conception is the fertilization of an egg, or where the sperm meets the egg in your uterus. The fertilization turns the egg into an embryo that will continue to develop into a fetus as the pregnancy continues. Conception can only occur after ovulation. Ovulation is on average a 24-hour cycle of the egg being released. Sperm can live in the woman’s body for 3-5 days. If sperm is present during the time of ovulation, then conception can occur. If you are not currently ovulating, then conception cannot occur.   After fertilization, the process of implantation occurs, where the embryo actually attaches to the uterus, which is needed for further development. During this stage, women are likely to experience symptoms similar to periods, including cramping and light bleeding. Because of this, it is often confused as a period. Common Symptoms of Pregnancy While the symptoms listed below are all signs of early pregnancy, it’s important to consider your menstrual cycle, as well as current events and possible stressors in your life. Many of these symptoms may stem from something other than pregnancy. In addition, the possibility of being stressed or anxious about pregnancy can cause you to have these symptoms, even if you are not pregnant. Spotting or light bleeding. If you are pregnant, this is likely due to implantation. Missed period. The most common sign of pregnancy, but it’s also possible to still get your period in the early stages of pregnancy. Frequent urination. This is due to an increase in blood supply during pregnancy. Swollen breasts. Headaches. Fatigue. This can be because of increased hormones in your body after conception. Nausea. Similar to fatigue, increased hormones also heighten your senses, like increased sensitivity to smell. When Can I Take A Pregnancy Test? Before taking a test, it’s extremely important to wait until you’ve missed your period. First, this eliminates the possibility that the symptoms you may be experiencing are from something else. Second, urine pregnancy tests are most effective after a missed period. Urine pregnancy tests identify the pregnancy hormone hCG that is present after conception, so the more time after your missed period...

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What is the Abortion Pill?

What is the abortion pill? What does it do? How much does it cost? These are all questions you might be asking yourself if you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant. If you are pregnant and aren’t sure what to do next, it’s totally normal. Truth is, even women who do want children experience second thoughts and anxiety when facing an unplanned pregnancy. The most important thing is to be fully educated and knowledgeable of the abortion pill, and all your options, and how your ultimate decision will affect your life.     What is the abortion pill? Because they’re both pills, the abortion pill is often confused with Plan B. Plan B, an emergency contraceptive, is very different than the abortion pill, which is an actual abortion procedure. The main difference in the two is where the pills are received and how far along in pregnancy you can take them. Plan B is available over-the-counter and is taken immediately after intercourse, up to 72 hours after unprotected sex or birth control failure. The abortion pill, also known as RU-486 and Mifeprex, must be administered by a medical professional and can be taken up to 10 weeks after intercourse, but is more successful the earlier its taken.   How does the abortion pill work? The abortion pill is a two-step process. A medical professional administers the first pill and the second pill is taken on your own at home, up to 48 hours later. The first pill stops your body from producing a hormone that is needed to further develop the fetus, while the second works to remove the tissue and empty the uterus, having the same effects on your body as a miscarriage. There is no set amount of time on how long it will take to start to empty the uterus after taking the second pill. You will likely experience severe cramping and bleeding during this process.   Am I eligible for the abortion pill? The abortion pill is 98 percent effective if taken in the first eight weeks of pregnancy, but can be taken up to 10 weeks after conception. In the event the procedure fails and is not successful, a surgical abortion will be required. To determine how far along you are, schedule a no-cost limited obstetrical ultrasound with a pregnancy care center, like ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center.   After passing the eligibility period for the abortion pill, it’s important to consider state laws for other procedures. In the state of Maine, aside from health-related exceptions, it is illegal to have an abortion if the fetus is viable, meaning that it could successfully live outside the womb. Fetuses are usually viable around the end of the second trimester, sometimes third trimester. In addition, women under the age of 18 require parental, guardian or an adult family member’s consent before receiving the procedure.   Cost of the abortion in...

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Pro-Woman

Recently I went on a business trip to California with my husband. I thought it would be a great time to get away and soak in some California sun vs. Maine sun! We went to the usual conferences and dinners. Interestingly enough there was opportunity to share about ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center even at these events. People would ask what I did for work and I explained I was a Registered Nurse.  And of course the next question was what kind of nursing do you do? I love this question. It allows me to really share ABBA and our love for people. It always surprise me how interested people are to hear about ABBA.  As an RN and working in the women’s health field it is so much more common to hear people talk about women’s rights, and how abortion options flow freely from physicians’ mouths to patient ears. Sometimes during these opportunities I find myself holding my breath waiting for the negative comments to start but typically I find the interest to be welcoming and curious. I explain that ABBA is a non-profit Christian organization offering free services. Our medical clinic offers FREE pregnancy testing, FREE limited STI testing, FREE limited obstetrical ultrasounds (all performed by our licensed and trained RN’s), options counseling and abortion information. Our support services offered include our Teen Parenting programs, Parenting courses, Pre-Natal courses and education,  Abortion Recovery program, Sexual Integrity programs, to name a few! We offer referrals and resources (including adoption referrals and info) for a variety of organizations in our area that help with many challenges of pregnancy and parenting. I like to call what I do Pro-woman. What is Pro-woman? It is shutting out the voices of the world. This includes friends, family, co-workers and sitting down and having a one-on-one conversation with a woman who is struggling. Discussing the now:  work, stresses, stressors, support, living situations, financial pressures, church, spiritual life, nutrition and much more. Discussing all three options of a pregnant woman:  parenting, adoption, and abortion. It is making a pros and cons list and discussing consequences of all decisions. It is giving ALL the information. It is crying, laughing, hugging, praying, celebrating and mourning together. Pro-woman is throwing out all my judgments and expectations and walking into this clinic praying that God’s love will shine through me and his words will be heard. It is sharing hope to hopeless women who may have had one or more abortions and are struggling inside. That desperate need to lean on someone to share this burden and not feel condemned but to know there is compassion.  It is the intimate moment of holding hands with another woman in deep sorrow and praying to a God who cares. Praying not just for her decision with her pregnancy, but for ALL of her- her family, job, faith and courage. We...

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The Joy of Christmas

Christmas is the time of year when most of us think about holidays, shopping, snow, decorations and all the joyful anticipation that Christmas and thoughts of a New Year brings.  But maybe this season you are worried and scared about what your New Year may bring…  We are here for you. More than 2000 years ago, there was another young mother in the Middle East who also found herself in a similar situation.  She was pregnant…not by the man she was engaged to…scared…what would her family and community  think…would her fiancé stay with her…worried with fears of the future…could she handle the responsibility…was she ready for this responsibility?  What if she had had a place to go where she would be loved, respected for her decisions and choices, offered community support, given support in the early days of pregnancy and motherhood?  Would her fears have been soothed? We want to be that bridge of support for you during a time that can be confusing and full of anxiety. If you are that woman…please call us or text us.  We are waiting to hear from you.  We exist to serve you during this time. That woman 2000 years ago, despite all the challenges she faced, carried that little one and birthed a miracle…a child that was the Savior of the World!  Who might your little one become…? We are here for you. #pregnant  #pregnancyhelp  #pregnantandscared  #ultrasounds ...

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