Single Moms

To all the single moms, whether you’re expecting your first, or have multiple children. Whether your spouse passed away, or you’re divorced, or you’ve never been married. God wants you to hear this message. I have never been married and I was single when I found out I was pregnant with my son. I had so many questions about what he would do without a dad. I had hoped and prayed that my sons dad would come back into his life someday. I had also hoped and prayed that he wouldn’t. I suffered through many sleepless nights when I was pregnant just wondering what would happen with my son’s and my future. “Would he ever know his real dad? Would I find a man who wasn’t his biological father but could be a father figure to him?” These are the thoughts I went over and over in my mind, night after sleepless night. I asked so many people who had been through What I had been through to share their stories with me. I heard stories of reconciliation where the parents of the child got back together and became a family. I heard stories where the Biological father of the child never came around but the child had a step-father who he called daddy. And I would also hear stories where the child had two fathers. His biological father and his step-father, and the child was loved by both. Each time I heard one of these stories, I would think “that could be me”. I would create the same exact scenario in my head and implant my son and myself into it. I compared myself to everyone else’s stories constantly. I wasn’t happy. I felt like I had to know my future and it killed me that I couldn’t. As time went on, my pregnancy progressed and I gave birth to my son. He is now 8 months old and it’s taken me a long time to realize what I wish I had always known back then. Your story is not someone else’s. It’s unique. And God is writing it just for you. As I grew and matured in motherhood, I also grew and matured in my relationship with Christ. He helped me realize that it wasn’t the unknown that was making me so unhappy, but the comparison of other people. He showed me that my story is special. It’s going to happen in His timing (and His timing is perfect). So my message to you, single mothers is this: Don’t compare yourself to other people. God is working ALL things together for your good (Romans 8:28). I was never content in my singleness until I realized that God’s will for my life would be accomplished whether I worried or not. So I’m leaving it in His hands. I trust Him. He knows what is truly best for my son...

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Pro-Woman

Recently I went on a business trip to California with my husband. I thought it would be a great time to get away and soak in some California sun vs. Maine sun! We went to the usual conferences and dinners. Interestingly enough there was opportunity to share about ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center even at these events. People would ask what I did for work and I explained I was a Registered Nurse.  And of course the next question was what kind of nursing do you do? I love this question. It allows me to really share ABBA and our love for people. It always surprise me how interested people are to hear about ABBA.  As an RN and working in the women’s health field it is so much more common to hear people talk about women’s rights, and how abortion options flow freely from physicians’ mouths to patient ears. Sometimes during these opportunities I find myself holding my breath waiting for the negative comments to start but typically I find the interest to be welcoming and curious. I explain that ABBA is a non-profit Christian organization offering free services. Our medical clinic offers FREE pregnancy testing, FREE limited STI testing, FREE limited obstetrical ultrasounds (all performed by our licensed and trained RN’s), options counseling and abortion information. Our support services offered include our Teen Parenting programs, Parenting courses, Pre-Natal courses and education,  Abortion Recovery program, Sexual Integrity programs, to name a few! We offer referrals and resources (including adoption referrals and info) for a variety of organizations in our area that help with many challenges of pregnancy and parenting. I like to call what I do Pro-woman. What is Pro-woman? It is shutting out the voices of the world. This includes friends, family, co-workers and sitting down and having a one-on-one conversation with a woman who is struggling. Discussing the now:  work, stresses, stressors, support, living situations, financial pressures, church, spiritual life, nutrition and much more. Discussing all three options of a pregnant woman:  parenting, adoption, and abortion. It is making a pros and cons list and discussing consequences of all decisions. It is giving ALL the information. It is crying, laughing, hugging, praying, celebrating and mourning together. Pro-woman is throwing out all my judgments and expectations and walking into this clinic praying that God’s love will shine through me and his words will be heard. It is sharing hope to hopeless women who may have had one or more abortions and are struggling inside. That desperate need to lean on someone to share this burden and not feel condemned but to know there is compassion.  It is the intimate moment of holding hands with another woman in deep sorrow and praying to a God who cares. Praying not just for her decision with her pregnancy, but for ALL of her- her family, job, faith and courage. We...

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Our Clinic Days Are Expanding

Exciting changes are happening here at ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center starting the second week of November.  Our clinic days are EXPANDING.   As of October 1st, we have welcomed a second nurse to our staff, Pollyanna Nickerson.  Pollyanna has just completed her nurse sonographer training and is now seeing clients and offering full clinic services on Tuesdays (pregnancy testing, ultrasounds and limited STI testing).  We are so excited to be able to offer you with more days and hours to choose from to meet your needs.  Our clinic will be open for appointments from 10am to 4pm every Tuesday and Wednesday.  Spread the word! To book an appointment, Click Here #ultrasounds  #abba   #pregnancyhelp  #ultrasounds  #pregnant  #pregnancyresourcecenter...

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Pregnancy Testing and Ultrasound

Last week I started writing a blog about the medical clinic here at ABBA.  As promised, today I’d like to give you some information about Pregnancy Testing and Limited Ultrasounds. So, your period is late and you’re scared… Here at ABBA we offer free pregnancy tests to first help you find out if indeed your missed period is due to pregnancy.  We use a high quality urine based pregnancy test, which is administered and tested by an RN, which can determine with 99% accuracy if you are pregnant. So, the test was POSITIVE, now what…? Take a few minutes to breathe and calm down. A decision needs to be made soon, but it doesn’t need to be made the same day you find out you’re pregnant. Finding out you’re pregnant can be difficult if the pregnancy is unplanned. Before you choose what to do about your pregnancy, take your time to make a well-informed decision. Take time to research the facts, to talk to a trusted individual, and to think on your own before you decide. What is a limited ultrasound and why do I need one? A limited obstetrical ultrasound is an ultrasound that is performed to look for specific information.  At ABBA we perform ultrasounds to determine how far along you are (gestational age), that the pregnancy is implanted inside the uterus (not ectopic), and that there is a viable pregnancy (that a heartbeat is present). Why is an ultrasound important if my pregnancy test was positive? I’m pregnant, right? Knowing that your pregnant is just the first step, but now what do you need to know? Determining how pregnant you are is step one.  If you are considering an abortion, it is important to have a limited obstetrical ultrasound to determine the gestational age of your pregnancy to better understand the type of abortion procedure available to you. Limited ultrasound can also show if you may have a natural miscarriage or if your pregnancy is ectopic, which can be life threatening.  Up to 20%, which is one in five, of known pregnancies end in miscarriage.  Some miscarriages are completely silent but often miscarriages are accompanied by symptoms of bleeding or cramping.  Sometimes minor bleeding/spotting or cramping can be completely normal; we can help you figure this out.  Ectopic pregnancy occurs in up to 1 in 50 pregnancies.  “An ectopic pregnancy is when a fertilized egg stays in your fallopian tube. In that case, it’s called an ectopic pregnancy or a tubal pregnancy. In rare cases, the fertilized egg attaches to one of your ovaries, another organ in your abdomen, or even the cervix. Ectopic pregnancies require emergency treatment.” (source) Like a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy can be accompanied by bleeding and pain/cramping in the abdomen or pelvis.  With an ultrasound we can help determine the safety of your pregnancy, the presence of a miscarriage or the...

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Why Choose ABBA?

ABBA has no financial interest in your pregnancy because we do not perform abortions, provide referrals for abortions, or arrange adoptions.  We are here to help you sort through difficult options and provide you with information to help you make your decision. Missing your period can be very upsetting if pregnancy was not what you had planned.  We understand.  Many of our staff and client advocates have been just where you are and we listen with compassion, not judgment. What are my options? Abortion? Adoption? Parenting?  But first, am I really pregnant? On Wednesdays our medical clinic is open just for you.  We provide accurate pregnancy tests, STI testing and treatment as well as limited obstetrical ultrasounds.  All our services are free of charge and completely confidential. Over the next few weeks I am going to talk about different topics that we deal with in our clinic and during our support services appointments:  Pregnancy testing and limited ultrasounds, STI testing and treatment, Abortion information, Parenting and prenatal education programs, to name a few… I hope these blog entries help provide you with more clarity during a confusing and stressful time. Stay tuned! Elena,...

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