Single Moms

To all the single moms, whether you’re expecting your first, or have multiple children. Whether your spouse passed away, or you’re divorced, or you’ve never been married. God wants you to hear this message. I have never been married and I was single when I found out I was pregnant with my son. I had so many questions about what he would do without a dad. I had hoped and prayed that my sons dad would come back into his life someday. I had also hoped and prayed that he wouldn’t. I suffered through many sleepless nights when I was pregnant just wondering what would happen with my son’s and my future. “Would he ever know his real dad? Would I find a man who wasn’t his biological father but could be a father figure to him?” These are the thoughts I went over and over in my mind, night after sleepless night. I asked so many people who had been through What I had been through to share their stories with me. I heard stories of reconciliation where the parents of the child got back together and became a family. I heard stories where the Biological father of the child never came around but the child had a step-father who he called daddy. And I would also hear stories where the child had two fathers. His biological father and his step-father, and the child was loved by both. Each time I heard one of these stories, I would think “that could be me”. I would create the same exact scenario in my head and implant my son and myself into it. I compared myself to everyone else’s stories constantly. I wasn’t happy. I felt like I had to know my future and it killed me that I couldn’t. As time went on, my pregnancy progressed and I gave birth to my son. He is now 8 months old and it’s taken me a long time to realize what I wish I had always known back then. Your story is not someone else’s. It’s unique. And God is writing it just for you. As I grew and matured in motherhood, I also grew and matured in my relationship with Christ. He helped me realize that it wasn’t the unknown that was making me so unhappy, but the comparison of other people. He showed me that my story is special. It’s going to happen in His timing (and His timing is perfect). So my message to you, single mothers is this: Don’t compare yourself to other people. God is working ALL things together for your good (Romans 8:28). I was never content in my singleness until I realized that God’s will for my life would be accomplished whether I worried or not. So I’m leaving it in His hands. I trust Him. He knows what is truly best for my son...

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Pro-Woman

Recently I went on a business trip to California with my husband. I thought it would be a great time to get away and soak in some California sun vs. Maine sun! We went to the usual conferences and dinners. Interestingly enough there was opportunity to share about ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center even at these events. People would ask what I did for work and I explained I was a Registered Nurse.  And of course the next question was what kind of nursing do you do? I love this question. It allows me to really share ABBA and our love for people. It always surprise me how interested people are to hear about ABBA.  As an RN and working in the women’s health field it is so much more common to hear people talk about women’s rights, and how abortion options flow freely from physicians’ mouths to patient ears. Sometimes during these opportunities I find myself holding my breath waiting for the negative comments to start but typically I find the interest to be welcoming and curious. I explain that ABBA is a non-profit Christian organization offering free services. Our medical clinic offers FREE pregnancy testing, FREE limited STI testing, FREE limited obstetrical ultrasounds (all performed by our licensed and trained RN’s), options counseling and abortion information. Our support services offered include our Teen Parenting programs, Parenting courses, Pre-Natal courses and education,  Abortion Recovery program, Sexual Integrity programs, to name a few! We offer referrals and resources (including adoption referrals and info) for a variety of organizations in our area that help with many challenges of pregnancy and parenting. I like to call what I do Pro-woman. What is Pro-woman? It is shutting out the voices of the world. This includes friends, family, co-workers and sitting down and having a one-on-one conversation with a woman who is struggling. Discussing the now:  work, stresses, stressors, support, living situations, financial pressures, church, spiritual life, nutrition and much more. Discussing all three options of a pregnant woman:  parenting, adoption, and abortion. It is making a pros and cons list and discussing consequences of all decisions. It is giving ALL the information. It is crying, laughing, hugging, praying, celebrating and mourning together. Pro-woman is throwing out all my judgments and expectations and walking into this clinic praying that God’s love will shine through me and his words will be heard. It is sharing hope to hopeless women who may have had one or more abortions and are struggling inside. That desperate need to lean on someone to share this burden and not feel condemned but to know there is compassion.  It is the intimate moment of holding hands with another woman in deep sorrow and praying to a God who cares. Praying not just for her decision with her pregnancy, but for ALL of her- her family, job, faith and courage. We...

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STI Testing and Treatment

Did you know we offer FREE STI (sexually transmitted infection) testing and treatment here at ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center?  Every Wednesday our clinic is open and available for this service as well as other medical options.  We are also hoping to expand our clinic days to Wednesdays and Thursdays to better accommodate your schedule and give you more flexible appointment times. In this week’s blog I wanted to talk about STI’s and why it may be important for you to be tested. Here at ABBA we offer urine-based testing for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea.  Testing is simple and can be combined with a pregnancy test, if that is needed and results available by the next week.  Treatment is a one-time dose of an antibiotic that we administer here, and is also provided FREE of charge. So, why is getting tested for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea important for YOU? The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) estimates that each year about 3 million people in the US contract chlamydia each year, making it the most common sexually transmitted bacterial infection.  The CDC also estimates that about 820,000 people contract gonorrhea each year.  The highest rates of infections are found in women under the age of 25, particularly those who are 15-19 years old.  About 40% of the time, women who have gonorrhea also have chlamydia. Symptoms of both chlamydia and gonorrhea can be silent, about 75% of women have no symptoms, at all!  But when symptoms are present, the most common complaints are abnormal vaginal discharge, burning or pain during urination, vaginal or cervical inflammation, spotting or pain during sex. Left untreated, these infections can spread and cause serious problems: “Women infected with chlamydia or gonorrhea can develop PID, which, in turn, can lead to reproductive system morbidity such as ectopic pregnancy and tubal factor infertility.  An estimated 10%–20% of women with chlamydia or gonorrhea may develop PID if they do not receive adequate treatment.  Among women with PID, tubal scarring can cause infertility in 20% of women, ectopic pregnancy in 9%, and chronic pelvic pain in 18%. About 80%–90% of chlamydial infections10 and up to 80% of gonococcal infections in women are asymptomatic. These infections are detected primarily through screening.”   (http//www.cdc.gov/STD) After unprotected sex, how long does it take for chlamydia or gonorrhea infection to develop? The incubation period for chlamydia is 1-3 weeks and gonorrhea has an incubation period of about 2-10 days.  While both chlamydia and gonorrhea are serious and transmittable bacterial infections, they are highly curable.  The treatments for these infections are also safe to take if you are pregnant. If you have had unprotected sex or are recently pregnant and feel that you may be at risk for an STI, please call us and schedule an appointment for testing or to ask us more questions.  We are here to help...

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