Parenting 101

As you make your decision about how to proceed with an unplanned pregnancy, some of the thoughts going through your mind may be:  I’m not ready to be a Mom!! Or,  What do I know about taking care of a baby?!  These are common concerns for many expectant women.  Thankfully, this is another area where ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center’s can help! ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center’s trained client advocates are here to meet with you weekly, at a time convenient for you, to help you navigate a healthy pregnancy and prepare for parenthood.  As with all of ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center’s services, these 60 minute appointments are free and confidential.  During your time with a client advocate, you will view up-to-date programming about pregnancy, labor and delivery and/or parenting.  Some of the pregnancy topics offered include: what to expect during each of the trimesters; eating for two; your developing baby; and comfort techniques for labor and delivery.  Parenting classes cover subjects such as:  infant hygiene; bonding with your newborn; infant nutrition; and learning through play.  Most programs also include information that you can take home to further your pregnancy and parenting knowledge.  In addition to watching a video, your appointment will allow plenty of time to ask questions and discuss whatever’s on your mind with your client advocate.  While the programming can make a big difference in helping you feel more confident in your parenting skills, most clients also appreciate just having access to an experienced and empathetic listening ear to talk over their questions and concerns. Because we know your time is valuable and your resources may be limited, every time you come to ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center for a parenting class you will earn 25 points that you can use to “purchase” items from our baby boutique. Each 25 points you earn entitles you to choose 3 items from the boutique, or you can save your points for a gift certificate to purchase larger items such as cribs or strollers. The boutique offers a large selection of new baby clothing, blankets, diapers and other needed supplies. Those clients who have come consistently to parenting classes will also receive a free pack of diapers,  a free baby layette after their child is born.  And, the good news is, you can continue to come to ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center for weekly classes for a year or more after your child is born, gaining more knowledge on such topics as understanding newborns; your baby can sleep; and first year milestones. As your child grows, your points at the baby boutique will continue to accumulate. Embarking on the journey of pregnancy and parenthood can seem daunting. But resources are available and ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center is here to come alongside you and help you to take good care of yourself and your baby.  Call today and...

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What is Emergency Contraception

Emergency Contraception   What is it? Emergency contraception is any type of birth control used after unprotected intercourse or contraception failure has occurred. There are three types of emergency contraception: Plan B One-Step®, Ella®, and ParaGard (copper IUD). Your body and health are important, so take time to make an informed decision for you. How does emergency contraception work? Plan B One-Step® contains a high dose of lovonorgestrel. This is a hormone typically found in hormonal birth control pills though at much lower doses. It works by stopping ovulation, preventing fertilization (when the sperm meets the egg), and implantation (attachment to the endometrium). Ella® is a prescription medication which contains ulipristal. This inhibits or delays ovulation and can alter the endometrium (lining of the uterus) which effects implantation. ParaGard contains copper which is toxic to sperm and the ovum (egg). When ParaGard is inserted before ovulation it prevents fertilization and when inserted after ovulation it prevents implantation. ParaGard is a prescription and must be inserted and removed by a doctor. What is ovulation? Ovulation is when a mature egg (oocyte) is released from one ovary. A study, published in the National Library of Medicine, showed that most women ovulate on day 12-13 of their period cycle and are considered fertile. Sperm can live in a woman’s body for 2-5 days after intercourse. An egg lives for about 4-12 hours and will only continue to live and grow if fertilized by a sperm. A fertile window is determined when sperm can reach the egg which can only occur during ovulation. You can determine when ovulation occurs based on cervical mucous discharge. Why is ovulation important? These forms of emergency contraception will only work if taken when you are ovulating. Taking emergency contraception when you are not ovulating needlessly exposes you to the high dose of hormones and cost. Is emergency contraception effective? One study conducted by Plan B One-Step® found that 84% of pregnancies were prevented. Drug marketers claim that 7 out of 8 women who would have gotten pregnant did not. These numbers is based on the estimation of ovulation might have occurred and not actual pregnancies. Is emergency contraception considered an abortion? It depends on how you define the start of life. Some believe that pregnancy begins when the fertilized egg implants in the uterus wall. The scientific reality is that at contraception (when a sperm meets an egg) growth and many life defining qualities are determined in that moment like gender, eye and hair color. Both Plan B One-Step®, Ella®, and ParaGard may prevent the newly formed life to implant in the endometrium (uterine wall) which many consider this an early form of abortion because the start of life begins at contraception. Ella® is considered a category X drug which means it is contraindicated to be used in pregnancy. During lab testing Ella® caused abortions to animals,...

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Finding a Home

In One Client’s Own Words “I don’t think Thank You is enough” I would like to start off by thanking each and every one of you for keeping ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center alive and thriving. ABBA has been a place of comfort, support, and a help in guiding me on my journey to an amazing life… your generosity has helped me and so many other women!   When I first heard about ABBA I was pregnant, with no place to call home. I was scared because I felt hopeless…how can I bring my child into a world when I had nothing or how was I going to be a good parent, would my relationship last? All these thoughts ran through my head and scared me. But ABBA, the women at ABBA, opened their arms, took the time and effort to teach me in things I really didn’t know or understand completely… how to be a good parent, techniques on how to take care of my child properly and how to have a great relationship with my partner so my child could grow up in a stable environment with two parents not just one.   ABBA has also helped me in understanding Christ better. There’s so much more than I was told or taught and when I came to ABBA they gave me the choice. DO I want to learn more about our Savior? The best part about ABBA is they never forced anything on me they let the decision lay in my hands but gave me options and choices which made it a lot easier.   Today I have my home, which is my family, I have a wonderful partner who has also been there for me, we have a wonderful son that God has blessed us with and thanks to all your support I have taken all the tools given to me by ABBA and applied them to my life and I couldn’t be happier! I’m a great mother thanks in part to the work of ABBA!   I don’t think thank you is enough but it’s all I have “Thank you so much!”   More about ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center: Read another client testimony here: Single Moms Visit us on Facebook: ABBA Pregnancy...

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Single Moms

To all the single moms, whether you’re expecting your first, or have multiple children. Whether your spouse passed away, or you’re divorced, or you’ve never been married. God wants you to hear this message. I have never been married and I was single when I found out I was pregnant with my son. I had so many questions about what he would do without a dad. I had hoped and prayed that my sons dad would come back into his life someday. I had also hoped and prayed that he wouldn’t. I suffered through many sleepless nights when I was pregnant just wondering what would happen with my son’s and my future. “Would he ever know his real dad? Would I find a man who wasn’t his biological father but could be a father figure to him?” These are the thoughts I went over and over in my mind, night after sleepless night. I asked so many people who had been through What I had been through to share their stories with me. I heard stories of reconciliation where the parents of the child got back together and became a family. I heard stories where the Biological father of the child never came around but the child had a step-father who he called daddy. And I would also hear stories where the child had two fathers. His biological father and his step-father, and the child was loved by both. Each time I heard one of these stories, I would think “that could be me”. I would create the same exact scenario in my head and implant my son and myself into it. I compared myself to everyone else’s stories constantly. I wasn’t happy. I felt like I had to know my future and it killed me that I couldn’t. As time went on, my pregnancy progressed and I gave birth to my son. He is now 8 months old and it’s taken me a long time to realize what I wish I had always known back then. Your story is not someone else’s. It’s unique. And God is writing it just for you. As I grew and matured in motherhood, I also grew and matured in my relationship with Christ. He helped me realize that it wasn’t the unknown that was making me so unhappy, but the comparison of other people. He showed me that my story is special. It’s going to happen in His timing (and His timing is perfect). So my message to you, single mothers is this: Don’t compare yourself to other people. God is working ALL things together for your good (Romans 8:28). I was never content in my singleness until I realized that God’s will for my life would be accomplished whether I worried or not. So I’m leaving it in His hands. I trust Him. He knows what is truly best for my son...

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Pro-Woman

Recently I went on a business trip to California with my husband. I thought it would be a great time to get away and soak in some California sun vs. Maine sun! We went to the usual conferences and dinners. Interestingly enough there was opportunity to share about ABBA, A Women’s Resource Center even at these events. People would ask what I did for work and I explained I was a Registered Nurse.  And of course the next question was what kind of nursing do you do? I love this question. It allows me to really share ABBA and our love for people. It always surprise me how interested people are to hear about ABBA.  As an RN and working in the women’s health field it is so much more common to hear people talk about women’s rights, and how abortion options flow freely from physicians’ mouths to patient ears. Sometimes during these opportunities I find myself holding my breath waiting for the negative comments to start but typically I find the interest to be welcoming and curious. I explain that ABBA is a non-profit Christian organization offering free services. Our medical clinic offers FREE pregnancy testing, FREE limited STI testing, FREE limited obstetrical ultrasounds (all performed by our licensed and trained RN’s), options counseling and abortion information. Our support services offered include our Teen Parenting programs, Parenting courses, Pre-Natal courses and education,  Abortion Recovery program, Sexual Integrity programs, to name a few! We offer referrals and resources (including adoption referrals and info) for a variety of organizations in our area that help with many challenges of pregnancy and parenting. I like to call what I do Pro-woman. What is Pro-woman? It is shutting out the voices of the world. This includes friends, family, co-workers and sitting down and having a one-on-one conversation with a woman who is struggling. Discussing the now:  work, stresses, stressors, support, living situations, financial pressures, church, spiritual life, nutrition and much more. Discussing all three options of a pregnant woman:  parenting, adoption, and abortion. It is making a pros and cons list and discussing consequences of all decisions. It is giving ALL the information. It is crying, laughing, hugging, praying, celebrating and mourning together. Pro-woman is throwing out all my judgments and expectations and walking into this clinic praying that God’s love will shine through me and his words will be heard. It is sharing hope to hopeless women who may have had one or more abortions and are struggling inside. That desperate need to lean on someone to share this burden and not feel condemned but to know there is compassion.  It is the intimate moment of holding hands with another woman in deep sorrow and praying to a God who cares. Praying not just for her decision with her pregnancy, but for ALL of her- her family, job, faith and courage. We...

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The Joy of Christmas

Christmas is the time of year when most of us think about holidays, shopping, snow, decorations and all the joyful anticipation that Christmas and thoughts of a New Year brings.  But maybe this season you are worried and scared about what your New Year may bring…  We are here for you. More than 2000 years ago, there was another young mother in the Middle East who also found herself in a similar situation.  She was pregnant…not by the man she was engaged to…scared…what would her family and community  think…would her fiancé stay with her…worried with fears of the future…could she handle the responsibility…was she ready for this responsibility?  What if she had had a place to go where she would be loved, respected for her decisions and choices, offered community support, given support in the early days of pregnancy and motherhood?  Would her fears have been soothed? We want to be that bridge of support for you during a time that can be confusing and full of anxiety. If you are that woman…please call us or text us.  We are waiting to hear from you.  We exist to serve you during this time. That woman 2000 years ago, despite all the challenges she faced, carried that little one and birthed a miracle…a child that was the Savior of the World!  Who might your little one become…? We are here for you. #pregnant  #pregnancyhelp  #pregnantandscared  #ultrasounds ...

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