Month: August 2019

Unplanned pregnancy, Single Mom, Teen Mom, Brave Mom

Read This Brave Single Teen Mom’s Story: I am 36 and a mother of three children. I was 15 when I had my first child, life was crazy. At 15  I thought I had all the answers, but the moment that I found out that I was pregnant I had no idea what life was going to look like. I had dreams of things I wanted to accomplish in life, but it wasn’t about me any more I was 15 and pregnant. I knew this pregnancy was not planned but I felt like this is my child, my blessing that would bring me to a new chapter in my life. I had my baby a week before I finished ninth grade which led me to get my GED. Then came my second child. I was married at 19 to a man that was physically abusive. At the age of 22 I was divorced with two kids. I had met someone new and became pregnant. At eight weeks I miscarried. I felt alone, guilty, and ashamed that it was my fault. That I had done something wrong, and something was wrong with me. The father was not supportive or understanding. Instead he was the opposite, verbally and mentally abusive, controlling and possessive. A few months later I found out that I was pregnant again and had my third baby. After being in another very controlling and abusive relationship that lasted several years I was given the courage to finally be free. I was now in a place where again I did not know what life looked like. The unknown was so vast. The “how’s” and “what ifs” of being a single mother were so over whelming. I had no family close and I was legally ordered not to leave the state with my middle baby. I was alone and a single mother with mountains in front of me. I had been told that I would never amount to anything, nobody would ever want me because I had three children. We moved into an apartment with almost no furnishings.  But I had some amazing coworkers and friends that helped me get the things for our apartment. I worked as a waitress but when times were slow, and I wasn’t making ends meet I started a second job cleaning. In court we decided on shared custody with no child support. So, I found myself working full time, cleaning 2-3 times a week while being a single mom. It was overwhelming, but I would not have changed a thing. I made the decision to have a career to show my kids you can do anything as long as you put your mind to it, so I applied for college. I was blessed to be able to make my own schedule at school to work around my crazy life. One year later I graduated with a ...

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